First, a little wisdom
I took my first Psychology course at the age of 15. Forty years later, I’m starting to get people. LOL. Here are a few things I’ve come to notice:
- The more books there are on a topic, the less it is understood.
- BTW, there are 100,000 books on Amazon with “Leadership” in the title.
- If you really want to know what someone said, ignore the words.
- People run on autopilot most of the time. Most “plane crashes” are pre-programmed.
- As soon as two people become aware of each other, they form a system.
- If people often treat you badly, you are unwittingly promoting it.
- If behavior looks “crazy” now, remember it once made perfect sense.
- How you carry yourself matters more than the clothes you wear.
- Context trumps Personality in determining behavior.
- Too many people serve their values and beliefs, instead of having values and beliefs that serve them.
- If you don’t understand group dynamics, the world is a scary place full of weirdos, egomaniacs, and losers.
- If you understand how memory works, you understand how learning works. Schools don’t…
- Personality is not fixed; but how to change it isn’t well understood.
- The conscious mind makes stuff up. Don’t take what you think too seriously.
- You are your synapses. Therefore….
Subtle changes can change everything.
If you want different results, you want to be engaging change.
(It’s my job to make your brain engage and the experience engaging.)
Works for Anyone
If you learned something as unnatural as riding a bike, swimming, or driving a car, then you can easily learn to have more control over your everyday work and personal life, right?
Works in any Situation
Subtle signals permeate every human interaction, whether we are aware of them or not.
- Job interviews
- Salary negotiations
- Team dynamics
- Leadership/Followership
- Customer Service
- Sales
- Marketing (especially branding)
- Competition and Conflict
- Making friends
- Dating and marriage
- Parenting
- Pitching to VCs
You Want a more Connected and Successful Life, don’t you?
People define success in many ways: career, money, friendship, mating, parenting, and making a difference in the world. The way people treat you depends on the powerful (or weak) signals that you send and receive as well as the strategies you use to see and react to the world.
Who do I Serve?
I help job seekers, thought leaders, salespeople, executives, experts, entrepreneurs, consultants…anyone who doesn’t feel heard, who needs to influence without power, or who isn’t getting the followership, respect or rewards they deserve. My intention is to enable you to do great things.
Here’s the cool part: others change the way they treat you, because you change your signals, and they have no idea what’s different. It’s universal, predictable, and subliminal.
Many people make a breakthrough within hours of working together.
You won’t just develop new skills; you also acquire the feelings, intentions, and beliefs you need for a better life, for the rest of your days.
- Here’s a valuable bonus: If we work on your nonverbal signals, you get to keep the video recordings and materials.
- One more bonus: If you aren’t happy, I refund your money. There is no other way to do business, is there?
All training is customized to match your most pressing need.
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Are you ready?
No matter who you are, there’s greatness in you. (And hard to believe, but in everyone else around you.)
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In April 2007, I had an epiphany that changed my work, changed my life!
By nature, I was shy and cerebral. I stuttered and bored people. Today, I joke that when the kids in the neighborhood played doctor, they made me the anesthesiologist. I couldn’t look people in the eye while speaking. Small-talk terrified me. No deodorant was strong enough to safely help me through a networking event or a job interview.
Don’t get me wrong, I was functional. I traveling around the world, as a consultant and executive, helping companies make millions. I studied psychology, influence, and leadership most of my life in hopes of improving my social anxiety, but really my success was more with systems and processes than with people.
WOW, my life is different. Today, everyone thinks I’m a “people genius”.
Did you know there are over 20 schools of thought in psychology and therapy and over 20 schools of leadership? How can they all be valid and different at the same time? I’ve wondered about those incongruencies my whole career.
Well, I’ve got it. Within three weeks of my breakthrough, a total stranger contacted me and insisted on being my client. Within 6 months, several people stopped me and asked, “Are you someone important?” Since my epiphany, I have at least tripled my personal power, and clients keep tracking me down. What a relief: no more tight throats, self-consciousness, or excessive trips to the dry cleaners.
I made two shifts. The easier one to explain is that I started consciously controlling my nonverbal signals. That’s Nonverbal Leadership… taking responsibility for what you “say” nonverbally (and reaping the benefits).
We humans process nonverbal signals on a separate channel, in different parts of the brain, than verbal communications. In face-to-face situations, nonverbal signals win. Turn down the sound. I can still tell whether you will negotiate a raise, close the sale, go on a date, exchange business cards, raise capital, or land the job.
